First, congrats on getting the meds. Which one are you on; famvir, valtrex or zovirax. I can completely understand your reluctance to take a new medication. I actually will not take a new medication unless my DH is home. I once had a horrible reaction to something and ever since then, I'm afraid to be alone the first time I take a new med. That said, I think the side effects of the herpes med aren't anything really major but as with all new meds, exercising caution is the route to go. You may just find that the medication will work for you and greatly reduce your outbreaks.

Boyfriend . . . You need to tell him!! This is the perfect opportunity. New prescription with todays date stamped on the bottle. Hey honey, I went to a new doctor tonight and OMG I can't believe what he thinks but ummm, he thinks it may be herpes. He gave me these pills to take just incase but says I need to take a test sometime down the road just to be sure (but I'm not taking it right now because I need to digest this news). You've researched and this can be dormant for years but the new doc thinks that maybe I've had this for a few years and only now, because I had a yeast infection, am I more aware of what's going on down there." Please don't wait . . . Tell him right away that you need to see him and then just do it. The longer you wait, the harder it is going to be. New pills dated today . . . perfect time to tell him. And honestly, expect that he may need some time to digest this. Remember how hard it was for you to accept it. So if he says he needs some time to think this out, then allow him the space to do so.

I feel for you, I really really do. But you've now got the meds and let's hope they work well for you. But please tell your boyfriend because if he catches it from you a later date, then you really are doing the same thing the other guy did to you. He slept with you without giving you the facts and allowing you to make the choice. Give your boyfriend the opportunity to make his own choice. As for him having it, I doubt it. My DH and I have been together for many many years and as far as we know, he does not have it. He has not been tested but has never shown any type of symptoms. He checks and knows what to looks for and will wash right away and sometimes uses alcohol or peroxide because we read that it can help.

Don't put it off. It needs to be done. Let me know what happens.

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Hey Happiness Is,

I actually called my old gyno today; the one that put in my Paragard IUD. They told me that my doctor was going to be out all week, but to leave the nurse a message. I left the nurse a message and told her that I was in college in Pennsylvania a few months back, and it was in Philly that I got diagnosed at a free clinic as having herpes because I had a "sore". I next told her that I moved back home to Connecticut, and am going to school here, but am now experiencing my second outbreak of one sore, and that I needed someone here near my home to give me the antiviral prescription. When she called back, there were no questions asked; she basically just said, "sure, what antiviral did the doctor at the clinic give you?" I told her that I used acyclovir ointment and that it worked for me (which that part is true) as well as acyclovir tablets (which isn't true). She prescribed me both right away, and I actually just picked up the prescriptions a few minutes ago. When the actual doctor comes back from being on vacation, I'm just going to stick with my story and ask her for a refill as needed. I'm still planning on getting re-tested to get a positive result (it's just now been about 12 weeks past exposure) but I'll go back to Planned Parenthood to do that, I suppose. I applied the acyclovir ointment right away, but I have to admit, I'm a little bit afraid to take the oral tablets--I guess I'm just afraid of any side effects I may experience. As for the whole boyfriend situation, I'm still so stuck on what to do. If I wasn't experiencing almost DAILY outbreaks like you, I'm not sure I would tell him, but this is continuous, and he is really starting to wonder what is going on, and he's even getting a little upset. I did sleep with him once since this all started, but the next day I got my 2nd outbreak! I'm so afraid that he already has herpes; I mean, it's very likely that he does by now, because I was experiencing many symptoms for months before my initial bad outbreak. I'm really thinking about telling him in the way we discussed in the first place, because I still didn't do that due to getting a negative test result. I was even thinking about telling him tonight that I actually did end up getting tested, and everything was negative, but I'm getting "little white bumps" and all of the symptoms of herpes. But, again, I don't think that will go over too well because he'll be more mad for suspecting it and not saying a thing to him. I guess the only way to go about it is how you suggested in the beginning. The range of emotions I'm experiencing from going through all of this is incredible; I still can't believe this is happening. One day I feel incredibly guilty and can't even stand to be near my boyfriend because of the guilt (although if anyone deserved to be cheated on, it was him), and other times I just feel so depressed and icky. Like I said, if it wasn't everyday I wouldn't feel so bad because now I can't even have any kind of an intimate relationship with my boyfriend, and I brought this upon myself. Bleh. Maybe the meds with help.
~Katalina