Hello, First let me say I am sorry you have to go through this. I lost my husband at the age of 32 to pancreatic cancer on Oct. 31, 2004. Is your husband able to have the whipple? My husband did not lose his appetite but he did lose 130 lbs. Just make sure the doctors know that the patches are not taking all of the pain away. There is no reason to be in pain. My husband also was on patches but also ativan to help him sleep, which was wonderful and he also was on liquid morphine. That all combined seemed to help with the pain. Do you know what chemo/ rad he is doing? My dh was on 5fu w/ the radiation. the chemo wasn't too bad but the rad. made him very weak and sick. Zofran worked wonders. He would take it right before his radiation treatment.
Your family will be in my prayers. If you have any questions feel free to ask.
Jessica