I have been married for almost 40 years, I am 56, got married really young, Everything was good until I turned around 45 and It got worse when I became a grandmother and gained 20lbs, I still look good ( people have told me I don't look my age, and I get alot attention from other men.)and then the big one I went thru menopause, Now he looks at me in the same class as his mother. My husband is a very shallow man.Sleep with a grandmother, just not interested. I have asked him to go the the doctor for a complete check up,maybe there is something wrong with him medically,Or I kid around about viagra, but he seems uninterested .I have often thought of leaving him, but after 40 years,is sex really that important.I am only 56 years old I don't want to give it up yet!!!