To the scared wife"PEASE READ ALL" i can and will feel for you i am a recovering addict i have been clean now for 4 months after 4 years of using oxycotine,loratabs,morphine. first can i say this,when it got to the end of my use i would say everyday, i hate these things running my life i am quiting. when i would detox or withdraw i was all right for a couple of days after 3 or 4 days of being physically sick my mind would talk to me i would end up getting somthing to make me feel better untill the next time i withdawled. not that i am defending your husband at all but i believe a true addict will do things they would not normally do ever.i have 5 kids and a wife who luvs me but i almost lost them. i would tell here up and down no i have quit, time would go on and she would find out i was still on them.I could not physically quit at home i could not take the withdraws. the termoil that you go through is and was to much for me.and every time you withdraw the next time is worse and longer then the time before,maybe only a little but worse untill i could not do it at all.I dont think i could tell you or make you understand how much my family means to me but the pills, i believe like i said make you lie,say,act,feel,love and think wrongly. It is like me and my wife say for the past 4 years my wife has been living with not her husband but a stranger pretending to be her husband. I was in the psyciactric hospital for 8 day they put me on suboxone for the pain pills, librium for the shakes and convulsion and sweats, and clonidine to help your body detox faster.8 days to detox. and with in that 8 days time,remember like at home i would get exterimly sick and would be to the point to were i could not detox but because of constant care and the doctors , i did not get that sick. I had night sweats and the runns but really acually no pain or physical withdraw.my doctor was going to release me on the 4 and 5 day. but i asked him if i could stay just so i could be sure i wasnt going to get sick and relapse.now let me remind you and i am sure you already know this,you have got to want to quit, yes the fuzzy warm feeling is great but you have to want somthing else in life better or YOU WILL LOSE EVERYTHING.then when i got out i still felt weird i still had night sweats,for a while yes still have insomnia but the body shakes go away once you have trully detoxed yourself.For the insomnia I take a nonnarcotinc called trazodone 50 mg. it used to be an anxiety pill in the 70's but they figured out it was putting people to sleep and turned it into a sleeping pill.Perfect for a person who can never ever again take a painkillers EVER again.Scared WIFE, i am crying for you , and scared for you, and am really scared for you husband i have BEEN THERE, i will pray for you and your family.You are living the same sitchuwation "or how ever you spell it"as I AND MY WIFE AND MY 5 CHILDREN WERE. If it werent for my wife fighting for us and for me it would have been easy for me not "her at all" to walk away and let me do my own thing with no consicuence exept for me dying and then its the end.My wife could have left me easy she is very pretty and clean and could find another man easy.she would not have to worry about money just raising 5 wonderful kids by her self untill she remarried.but there is ONLY so much fighting you can do. I am SOOOO GLAD I GOT ON THIS SIGHT and read this about you and your family.because i have so wanted to tell my story not only to help maybe someone else but to help me to get it out.To tell About the crappy stuff i have done to myself my family and freinds, and i know now that my scared wife was not alone.
I have written this in faith that maybe it will not only help you in your in your decisions
but maybe help your husband to.
DONOT let him continue to destroy his life and others.
I believe that it can only go so far and then you should make the aternative decision what ever that might me!
Let me say again that i love my wife with all of my heart, but if she would have made the actuall decision to leave, because i didnt change, so that she could try to better her life and my kids lives she would have made the right choice and thats all that could have been done!!!!!!
My wife is a wonderfull kind hearted person and is fun to talk to if you want someone to talk to or ask for advice in this matter. I will be watching this and please if you want to let me know how your husband is doing and you for that matter.
OH YA, my wife luvvvss to talk on the darn on the phone or write emails
P.S. an addict will allways lie to you as long as they are using no matter what the price
thankyou for listening to me i did need this very badly
oh ya i am not saying he does not have back proplems but when you are on painpills they shrink the blood vessels in the back, so when you are coming of them your back will hurt for a week or so after untill the blood vessels go back to normal.