I was going to ask you the same thing as Havehadit did about the librium. When my son detoxed at home through an outpatient detox, they had him on librium, clonodine and neurontin to help with the withdrawals. His withdrawals were so bad he couldn't have gone to a meeting, at least not for the first five days. He could barely get out of bed to get to the bathroom. On the sixth day we did drive him to Boston where he went to his first NA meeting. That was the first time he detoxed from prescription OXY's two years ago. The last time he detoxed he had to do it without the meds because I wouldn't pay for him to go throught the outpatient detox again. He did have some xanax from his Physchiatrist which helped. That time he layed in bed for five days and again on the sixth or the seventh day was able to move again. He has always done well detoxing at home. My ex husband or I stayed with him 24-7. Of course this was his last time detoxing at home because if he uses again he's out the door. So far he is in his 6th month of staying clean.

Many of his drug using friends went to the local detox only to use when they got out or use when they were there. I, too, have never been a fan of these places. So many of the people in them are court ordered. I don't need him meeting more new drug dealers.

An e-mail friend of mine recently found out her son too was addicted to pain killers. She spent $20,000 to send him to some place in California that was supposed to be the best in the country. He did well the first few months even helping newcomers to the place. She brought him home a few weeks ago and just found needles and other paraphanalia in his room. She was devastated.

It is so hard to know what to do, to not cross the line from support to enabling.

I hope what ever you decide works for him and you. I understand your not
wanting to give up, at least not yet.