I am really sorry that you are having such a hard time. It is a very hard disease for others to understand. Most people are really clueless about it. I have had RA for 4 yrs. In the beginning I was extremely tired like you describe. You really need to see a good Rhuem and get started on a medical plan. I currently take Plaquenil, Lodine and MTX injections. I am doing far better and the fatigue is far better. It is still common but kind of rolling instead of steady. In the beginning you do tend to feel worse until you get used to the meds. My husband had a hard time in the beginning and he is really a great guy - but it shook him to the core when I would cry from pain or when I would get scard. Get help, you will feel better and than you will feel like you are back in control. I wil pray for you and your family. You are not alone and you can beat this disease!! Cindy