29th July 2003
Hello Dana, and Walter.
Dana you are not giving up on Walter. You are finding ways to handle what is going on in your life. It does sound if the cancer has gone to his brain, with his outburst. Just remember that Walter is too very angry, at his body for making him go through this. Maybe with the care, a hospice or a social worker can help release some of that anger instead of it hitting you. And if it does, just let it roll off. Another good book to read Dana, to maybe help with Walter is a book called Men and Grief. It is by Carol Staudacher, and deals with men surviving the Death of a loved one. But in my practice, grief is grief, and Walther is dealing with some pretty heavy grief. The book is about understanding men's grief responses and how to release that grief, by finding and sharing the grief on common grounds, also about writing or taping him talking about grief, allowing him to do this himself. There is also the importance of Male companionship.......again this is where the social worker can help.
Also please let the family know what is happening. There may be a male in the family who can help him through this.
Yes, keep on hoping for a miracle. Or acceptance to what is happening. I am really glad you two were able to have the vacation, even though it really drained Walter, and prob. you too, even though you are not saying.
Mom got really vicious after the cancer moved to the brain, and we had to get, I think, an anti depressant to help modulate the mood swings. I hope you have talked to the doctor about getting Iressa, I truely believed that it help the symtoms of the cancer with mom.
Good luck with the doctors appointment, let us know what they say.
Please and Thank You
Leisa
Dana you are not giving up on Walter. You are finding ways to handle what is going on in your life. It does sound if the cancer has gone to his brain, with his outburst. Just remember that Walter is too very angry, at his body for making him go through this. Maybe with the care, a hospice or a social worker can help release some of that anger instead of it hitting you. And if it does, just let it roll off. Another good book to read Dana, to maybe help with Walter is a book called Men and Grief. It is by Carol Staudacher, and deals with men surviving the Death of a loved one. But in my practice, grief is grief, and Walther is dealing with some pretty heavy grief. The book is about understanding men's grief responses and how to release that grief, by finding and sharing the grief on common grounds, also about writing or taping him talking about grief, allowing him to do this himself. There is also the importance of Male companionship.......again this is where the social worker can help.
Also please let the family know what is happening. There may be a male in the family who can help him through this.
Yes, keep on hoping for a miracle. Or acceptance to what is happening. I am really glad you two were able to have the vacation, even though it really drained Walter, and prob. you too, even though you are not saying.
Mom got really vicious after the cancer moved to the brain, and we had to get, I think, an anti depressant to help modulate the mood swings. I hope you have talked to the doctor about getting Iressa, I truely believed that it help the symtoms of the cancer with mom.
Good luck with the doctors appointment, let us know what they say.
Please and Thank You
Leisa