Richdaws1984, have you ever taken medication for this problem? I have the same problem as you. At least u went ahead and started a relationship. I am 19/f and I have never been in a real relationship. Its not like I couldnt find anyone, I do like to have crushes on guys and all but when the situation becomes a reality..I get scared and push the person away saying I dont want to be in a relationship when part of me really does. Well..Im not sure what I will do. I have been thinking about starting a medication like xanax...I have been taking something called Hydroxyzine HCL off and on for a few years but its not very strong at all. Thanks for replying to my post!