6th April 2008
Don't get me wrong there are some kids out there that have either one of the following disorders ADD/ADHD/ODD/Bipolar, this creates stress for familes when dealing with there children with behavioral problems. Over the past 8 yrs I have observed my friend and her son whom has these types of disorders she very much so lacks discipling her child and gives into him more so than not. Parents you need to realize that your challenge with your children is that you have to deal with two issues 1> treating the disorder with medication not the child and 2>treating the child with discipline not medicine. Giving your child just the medicine without discipining them will not help your child at all you have to keep them separated and treat them differently.
Excusing that the fact your child has the disorder and he is taking meds won't change the childs behavior if they are not getting any discipline there behavior will only intensify cause your merely raising a brat just like any normal kid without the disorder. My friends child by lack of discipline at home doctors increased his meds far greater than any other child or adult would take in a life time his medicine he was on Focalin, Depakote (1250mg)the doctor wants to increase it to 2000mg, Wellbutrin,Lexapro and trazadone (50mg). He has been in the hospital 9 times his behavior in the last year has gotten worse she blames the disorder without disciplining the child when he gets kicked out of school she sends him to a friends of there;s house rather than keep him at home if they cant send him to someone elses any where but at home this is doing nothing for the child, if she is out for the day and gets a call from the school and has to pick him up rather than go home for lunch goes to Mc Donalds her son knows this so he is being spoiled rather than disciplined rewarded for bad behavior, the kids have no responsibilities what so ever the parents don't follow thru with the punishment and give in to the kids everything she buys for them they don't touch nor play with when he gets way out of hand they admit him to the hospital he is very very hateful with his mother and when he gets out he rebels more and more she hardly spends time with her kids it is everyone else he addresses alot of this towards her and she tells him you have a problem. Yes he does but taking it to the extreme like this is not fair to the child this kid is being damaged physcially, mentally and medically......
He is 15 yrs old I have talked to him alot he is not a bad kid he shows respect when he is respected by others not yelling at him which she yells at him 24/7 she won't let him have his space I pointed out alot of the problems and spoke up for her son on his behalf but she won't see it any other way and it has only gotten worse yr after year rather than better. This has been taking so far out of context that they need to change some laws and give parenting classes to parents and make it a priority cause this medicine is a controlled substance and too much of it without looking far more into it is medical abuse by allowing a doctor to increase the dosages to that extent as a mother for the love of my child would not give them that high of a dose is totally uncalled for when his behavior is still out of control doctors need to start looking at the parents and request parenting for them to work with any child on a controlled substance medication.....why should these kids take all the wrap for bad parenting it is not fair to them to always be blamed. Therefore , parents can do one of two things learn how to work with it or just totally work against it....the outcome of there child rests on the parents on how they are being raised despite there medical condition.
Excusing that the fact your child has the disorder and he is taking meds won't change the childs behavior if they are not getting any discipline there behavior will only intensify cause your merely raising a brat just like any normal kid without the disorder. My friends child by lack of discipline at home doctors increased his meds far greater than any other child or adult would take in a life time his medicine he was on Focalin, Depakote (1250mg)the doctor wants to increase it to 2000mg, Wellbutrin,Lexapro and trazadone (50mg). He has been in the hospital 9 times his behavior in the last year has gotten worse she blames the disorder without disciplining the child when he gets kicked out of school she sends him to a friends of there;s house rather than keep him at home if they cant send him to someone elses any where but at home this is doing nothing for the child, if she is out for the day and gets a call from the school and has to pick him up rather than go home for lunch goes to Mc Donalds her son knows this so he is being spoiled rather than disciplined rewarded for bad behavior, the kids have no responsibilities what so ever the parents don't follow thru with the punishment and give in to the kids everything she buys for them they don't touch nor play with when he gets way out of hand they admit him to the hospital he is very very hateful with his mother and when he gets out he rebels more and more she hardly spends time with her kids it is everyone else he addresses alot of this towards her and she tells him you have a problem. Yes he does but taking it to the extreme like this is not fair to the child this kid is being damaged physcially, mentally and medically......
He is 15 yrs old I have talked to him alot he is not a bad kid he shows respect when he is respected by others not yelling at him which she yells at him 24/7 she won't let him have his space I pointed out alot of the problems and spoke up for her son on his behalf but she won't see it any other way and it has only gotten worse yr after year rather than better. This has been taking so far out of context that they need to change some laws and give parenting classes to parents and make it a priority cause this medicine is a controlled substance and too much of it without looking far more into it is medical abuse by allowing a doctor to increase the dosages to that extent as a mother for the love of my child would not give them that high of a dose is totally uncalled for when his behavior is still out of control doctors need to start looking at the parents and request parenting for them to work with any child on a controlled substance medication.....why should these kids take all the wrap for bad parenting it is not fair to them to always be blamed. Therefore , parents can do one of two things learn how to work with it or just totally work against it....the outcome of there child rests on the parents on how they are being raised despite there medical condition.