I am 40 and have a few general symptoms. I have lost almost 50 pounds since summer and I don't know if it has anything to do with this, but I seem to have a real urgency to have bowel movements in the past 2 months. Maybe just two a day, but when I have to go, I cannot wait. They are not diahhrea, but soft and normal. I have had urinary incontinence for many years now. Every once in a while I have really bad cramps up my right side from my waist area to under my right breast. I have been diagnosed with restless leg syndrom and so am on cpap at night and a medication for the rls. I am also on concerta and paxil, but all of this has happened long after my fecal urgency. When I wake in the morning or sit or lay down for a long time, I get pain around my pelvic bones. Why the fecal urgency?