27th October 2004
Hello,
I have just recently, as in a month ago- went through the painful mental and physical feeling of detox. Without completely confusing you, Id like to tell you my experience.
First off, detox is only a baby step in the right direction. The least of your worries should be on what they are giving your husband for detox. Personally the hospital gave me Phenobarb, quinnine for leg cramps, bentyl for stomach cramps, and clonidine patches for blood pres.
Of course your husband wants to come home, the disease is making him want to do more opiates. Thats what I was hooked on too. Its a brutal fight. But he can beat it, there is a solution. Your mind is very powerful. What is happening to your husband is his brain is telling his body he is dying, and that's what it feels like. The worst case of the flu and lasts 7 days although the w/d and what they call paws; post acute withdrawl symtom will last up to a year. Dreams of using, dreams of not using, ups and downs- they call it the rollarcoster ride.
I know as a Alanon- a co dependant- your first thought is if your husband is hurting you have to go get him. Is he in a 30 day rehab? If not, think about it. I know nobody EVER wants to go. But AA and NA have been working since 1935. Drug addiction is a serious cronic deadly disease.
I know if I personally went to a 7 day detox and then let back out in the community I would of been right back to using. The 30 some odd days I spent there working from 6:30 am to 11:00 pm, 7 days a week.
Now Ive been sober for 38 days. I have a temp sponsor and go to two meetings a day. I pray all the time now. I do the next right thing. Im working the steps, Im making ammends to all the people I hurt when I was on drugs and selfish, and self centered.
This is funny, I remember when I was taking pills like they were candy- didn't care about who I was hurting. Then my boyfriend went to rehab and when he came out and he was going to meetings all the time here's what I was thinking " I hope this doesnt last much longer, Im tired of him going to meetings " Goshhhhhh! It lasts the rest of your life! That's what blindfaith and Lynn were saying.
If I could tell you anything it's to not be scared. It's gonna work out if he and you will do the work. It's not a peice of cake, but the payoff is great!
Please know I will be praying for you both!
Love,
Sara
I have just recently, as in a month ago- went through the painful mental and physical feeling of detox. Without completely confusing you, Id like to tell you my experience.
First off, detox is only a baby step in the right direction. The least of your worries should be on what they are giving your husband for detox. Personally the hospital gave me Phenobarb, quinnine for leg cramps, bentyl for stomach cramps, and clonidine patches for blood pres.
Of course your husband wants to come home, the disease is making him want to do more opiates. Thats what I was hooked on too. Its a brutal fight. But he can beat it, there is a solution. Your mind is very powerful. What is happening to your husband is his brain is telling his body he is dying, and that's what it feels like. The worst case of the flu and lasts 7 days although the w/d and what they call paws; post acute withdrawl symtom will last up to a year. Dreams of using, dreams of not using, ups and downs- they call it the rollarcoster ride.
I know as a Alanon- a co dependant- your first thought is if your husband is hurting you have to go get him. Is he in a 30 day rehab? If not, think about it. I know nobody EVER wants to go. But AA and NA have been working since 1935. Drug addiction is a serious cronic deadly disease.
I know if I personally went to a 7 day detox and then let back out in the community I would of been right back to using. The 30 some odd days I spent there working from 6:30 am to 11:00 pm, 7 days a week.
Now Ive been sober for 38 days. I have a temp sponsor and go to two meetings a day. I pray all the time now. I do the next right thing. Im working the steps, Im making ammends to all the people I hurt when I was on drugs and selfish, and self centered.
This is funny, I remember when I was taking pills like they were candy- didn't care about who I was hurting. Then my boyfriend went to rehab and when he came out and he was going to meetings all the time here's what I was thinking " I hope this doesnt last much longer, Im tired of him going to meetings " Goshhhhhh! It lasts the rest of your life! That's what blindfaith and Lynn were saying.
If I could tell you anything it's to not be scared. It's gonna work out if he and you will do the work. It's not a peice of cake, but the payoff is great!
Please know I will be praying for you both!
Love,
Sara