9th July 2007
Notice to everyone that was kind enough to share their views with me. I was suppose to meet with the Director of the ALF and my Mom tomorrow regarding her controlling and by using crying spells to get to me.
Well, after thinking long and hard, I figure that even if I did voice my opinion to her, how long would she retain it in her memory. So I have decided not to have the discussion. It's not going to help. I am going to be the one that has to change. I will just have to learn to let things roll off my back more. I have always been the one to run to her in a crisis, but now it's time to back off.
Does anyone know about aricept? She is on one baby aspirin, and one antidepressant per day that's all. If what I am reading is true about aricept, it slows it down. Is that right? I think that is a wrong way to go about this when she wants to leave this earth and be with my Dad again. She misses him something awful. They did have 58 years together. I don't want to hold her back from being with him again, that would be greedy on my part. It is in her health care surrogate not to try to prolong anything. The only thing that I would insist on is if she were in pain. I would not want to see that. Could not bear it. Get this...this year my Mom is 85 I am 58 and when my dad died they were married for 58 years. Two numbers reversed 2 times. Strange.
When all of this started, I told my best friend that I went to elementary school with about the diagnosis and not knowing how to handle it. She said to me, didn't you ever think that you would have to take care of your parents? I must be really stupid!!!! Because my response to her was, no I always thought they would be here for me. Not to care for me, but just meaning that I never thought of my parents getting old and having health issues. Just goes to show, you really do need to plan ahead.
Well, thank you one and all for your opinions. I appreciate them more than you know. I will keep updating because these boards are the best support system.
Well, after thinking long and hard, I figure that even if I did voice my opinion to her, how long would she retain it in her memory. So I have decided not to have the discussion. It's not going to help. I am going to be the one that has to change. I will just have to learn to let things roll off my back more. I have always been the one to run to her in a crisis, but now it's time to back off.
Does anyone know about aricept? She is on one baby aspirin, and one antidepressant per day that's all. If what I am reading is true about aricept, it slows it down. Is that right? I think that is a wrong way to go about this when she wants to leave this earth and be with my Dad again. She misses him something awful. They did have 58 years together. I don't want to hold her back from being with him again, that would be greedy on my part. It is in her health care surrogate not to try to prolong anything. The only thing that I would insist on is if she were in pain. I would not want to see that. Could not bear it. Get this...this year my Mom is 85 I am 58 and when my dad died they were married for 58 years. Two numbers reversed 2 times. Strange.
When all of this started, I told my best friend that I went to elementary school with about the diagnosis and not knowing how to handle it. She said to me, didn't you ever think that you would have to take care of your parents? I must be really stupid!!!! Because my response to her was, no I always thought they would be here for me. Not to care for me, but just meaning that I never thought of my parents getting old and having health issues. Just goes to show, you really do need to plan ahead.
Well, thank you one and all for your opinions. I appreciate them more than you know. I will keep updating because these boards are the best support system.